Winning, Losing, and Why My Mom Stopped Playing Games With Me

Today I’m over at Play Eat Grow, sharing some thoughts on Lysa Terkeurst’s new children’s book, Win or Lose I Love You as well as answering some questions on what it means to teach and shape our kids’ hearts as it relates to the Scriptures.



“I Win!!!”

These two words can create chaos out of calm in 5 seconds flat.

I must admit- I’m a recovering sore-loser. I still remember playing Hi Ho Cherrio as a kid with my mom, and totally losing it when I lost. SO MANY TEARS. My mom eventually told me that she wouldn’t play any more games with me.

And she didn’t for several years.


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Work: How We Spend Our Days Matters

Day28 Work How we Spend Our Days Matters

I can’t remember a TON about my childhood, but one thing I do remember is spending a lot of my time “playing” work. I would beg my grandma to slip me a few extra deposit and withdrawal slips at the bank so I could use them in my “bank” at home. I would copy my picture books, word for word, because I wanted to be a writer. I’d go around my kitchen, explaining all of the advantages of such-and-such cabinet or color of wood or appliance choice, because, yes, I was wanted to be a kitchen salesperson. (I can’t make this stuff up).

Work has always been tightly intertwined with my identity.

Even before the Fall, there was work. Because of this, I believe that work at its finest is meant to be something wonderful, and not something mundane and life-zapping. (more…)

October 2015 Loves

Okay, so perhaps this isn’t doesn’t exactly fit into my #write31days Soul Shaping writing challenge, but what we love shapes our souls, yes??

October Loves

This month I’ve spent nearly every evening writing. I thought taking the #write31days challenge would invigorate me and blossom me into a better writer. I was wrong :). I feel in need of a writing break and I have found that the increase in writing has meant less time for reading and other things that give me inspiration. Plus, who has time to edit and craft sentences when you’re just trying to crank them out?

So, whatever, it is what it is.

Onto my favorite things this month.  (more…)



I feel like any good soul shaping series would include something about money, right?

Money is a subject that no one really likes to talk about. We don’t talk about how much money we make or how much we spend. We don’t talk about our debt or our generosity. I think I understand why. Maybe we feel like we will be judged for making too much money or too little. We feel embarrassed or ashamed by the amount of debt we have.

So, our money troubles stay inside; it remains a secret. We worry about it alone or perhaps with our partner.

Secrets often make our souls sick. (more…)

Review: Out of Sorts: Making Peace with an Evolving Faith


Every evening over the past several weeks, I’ve spent the last 15-20 minutes of my night reading Sarah Bessey’s new book, Out of Sorts. To be honest, it’s been my “treat” that I look forward to at the end of the day for finishing my #write31days post. Because you all, this is hard work.


It’s common knowledge that I’m a big fan of Sarah Bessey’s writing. My Practices of Mothering gave me the freedom and permission I needed to lean into gentle parenting. Jesus Feminist gave me the courage to take the next step in my blossoming egalitarian views. Out of Sorts gave me the companionship I needed to walk with confidence in this whole “sorting out” of my faith. (What can I say? I’m a needy person).  (more…)

The Enneagram


Towards the end of my faith shift, I spent about a year meeting with a spiritual director. One of the things that she helped me to understand was how I was wired and why it mattered.

Sure, I mean, I knew a lot about myself. I knew that I’m a melancholy personality (i.e. Beaver); I’m an INFJ; My strengths are Learner, Input, Developer, Intellection, and Achiever; and Belle is my Disney Princess. What I didn’t understand was how all of this affected how I related to God.  (more…)

Questions aren’t just for kids



When Asante was a threenager, he fell in love with the “why?” question, as most kids his age do. Why is grass green? Why are the leaves falling? Why is the water hot? Why do we have to sleep? Sometimes they why question would go on and on and on… but Jake and I vowed that we would always answer those questions to the best of our ability.

Nowadays, when the kids get home from school, one of the questions we sometimes ask is, “Did you ask any interesting questions today?”

Perhaps more than anything else from their childhood, we hope that they never lose their ability (or courage) to ask questions.


The Turning Point

day21 the turning point


So there we were, staring at the giant mass of boulders. We sat for a long time.

Some days I felt scared. I didn’t want to lose my faith, but I didn’t want to carry the heavy burden of my faith anymore either. Don’t get me wrong- my faith up until this point had been absolutely real. But I felt like the place where I was standing was dropping out from under me.  As this faith shift was happening, I think I knew there was no going back to where I had been before.   (more…)