Category: Spiritual Formation

Blessed are those with the comfort of answers


I used to think my spiritual maturity was directly related to the amount of answers I had.

It was junior high when I walked down a green-carpeted center aisle to say “I do” to Jesus. I had invited a lot of my friends that night to the youth night revival at my church, knowing they really needed Jesus. I got ‘im instead.

I’m a learner by nature, and so the Bible quickly became my primary textbook for life. I learned that it was the ultimate handbook, and by golly, I never knew a handbook or textbook that I couldn’t master. (more…)

My Personal Spiritual Formation Reading List

It’s here. The last day of #write31days. Whew. I have 11 months to recover :).

For real though, this process has been HARD, but I’m so thankful for a supportive husband who has let me sleep in late nearly everyday because I’ve been up until midnight nearly every night this month working and writing. I’ll be sure to return the sleeping-in favor to him as he soon begins his 2 week prelims. Whew.

For the last day of 31 Days of Soul Searching, I just wanted to take it easy and share a list of soul-forming books that are on my “If I ever get 2 weeks of uninterrupted reading time, these books are what I’d read” list.

In no particular order:

  1. Two Steps Forward
  2. The Gift of Being Yourself
  3. The Sacramental LIfe
  4. Simplicity
  5. Just Spirituality
  6. Life Together in Christ
  7. Margin
  8. Praying Upside Down
  9. Faithful: A Theology of Sex
  10. Forgive Us: Confessions of a Compromised Faith
  11. Eternal Living
  12. The Inner Voice of Love 
  13. Sacred Parenting
  14. Spirit Led Parenting
  15. Undone
  16. Spirituality in the Mother Zone

What books about any area of spiritual formation are you looking forward to reading??

Winning, Losing, and Why My Mom Stopped Playing Games With Me

Today I’m over at Play Eat Grow, sharing some thoughts on Lysa Terkeurst’s new children’s book, Win or Lose I Love You as well as answering some questions on what it means to teach and shape our kids’ hearts as it relates to the Scriptures.



“I Win!!!”

These two words can create chaos out of calm in 5 seconds flat.

I must admit- I’m a recovering sore-loser. I still remember playing Hi Ho Cherrio as a kid with my mom, and totally losing it when I lost. SO MANY TEARS. My mom eventually told me that she wouldn’t play any more games with me.

And she didn’t for several years.


Read more: Winning, Losing, and Why My Mom Stopped Playing Games With Me

Work: How We Spend Our Days Matters

Day28 Work How we Spend Our Days Matters

I can’t remember a TON about my childhood, but one thing I do remember is spending a lot of my time “playing” work. I would beg my grandma to slip me a few extra deposit and withdrawal slips at the bank so I could use them in my “bank” at home. I would copy my picture books, word for word, because I wanted to be a writer. I’d go around my kitchen, explaining all of the advantages of such-and-such cabinet or color of wood or appliance choice, because, yes, I was wanted to be a kitchen salesperson. (I can’t make this stuff up).

Work has always been tightly intertwined with my identity.

Even before the Fall, there was work. Because of this, I believe that work at its finest is meant to be something wonderful, and not something mundane and life-zapping. (more…)



I feel like any good soul shaping series would include something about money, right?

Money is a subject that no one really likes to talk about. We don’t talk about how much money we make or how much we spend. We don’t talk about our debt or our generosity. I think I understand why. Maybe we feel like we will be judged for making too much money or too little. We feel embarrassed or ashamed by the amount of debt we have.

So, our money troubles stay inside; it remains a secret. We worry about it alone or perhaps with our partner.

Secrets often make our souls sick. (more…)

Review: Out of Sorts: Making Peace with an Evolving Faith


Every evening over the past several weeks, I’ve spent the last 15-20 minutes of my night reading Sarah Bessey’s new book, Out of Sorts. To be honest, it’s been my “treat” that I look forward to at the end of the day for finishing my #write31days post. Because you all, this is hard work.


It’s common knowledge that I’m a big fan of Sarah Bessey’s writing. My Practices of Mothering gave me the freedom and permission I needed to lean into gentle parenting. Jesus Feminist gave me the courage to take the next step in my blossoming egalitarian views. Out of Sorts gave me the companionship I needed to walk with confidence in this whole “sorting out” of my faith. (What can I say? I’m a needy person).  (more…)

The Enneagram


Towards the end of my faith shift, I spent about a year meeting with a spiritual director. One of the things that she helped me to understand was how I was wired and why it mattered.

Sure, I mean, I knew a lot about myself. I knew that I’m a melancholy personality (i.e. Beaver); I’m an INFJ; My strengths are Learner, Input, Developer, Intellection, and Achiever; and Belle is my Disney Princess. What I didn’t understand was how all of this affected how I related to God.  (more…)

Questions aren’t just for kids



When Asante was a threenager, he fell in love with the “why?” question, as most kids his age do. Why is grass green? Why are the leaves falling? Why is the water hot? Why do we have to sleep? Sometimes they why question would go on and on and on… but Jake and I vowed that we would always answer those questions to the best of our ability.

Nowadays, when the kids get home from school, one of the questions we sometimes ask is, “Did you ask any interesting questions today?”

Perhaps more than anything else from their childhood, we hope that they never lose their ability (or courage) to ask questions.