Book Review: 20 and Something

I’m loving these Frames mini-books.


What is this book about?

20 and Something: Have the Time of Your Life (And Figure It All Out Too) discusses the issues surrounding today’s “roaring 20s”. Some people think that 20somethings are caught in an extended adolescence and need a good whack in the be-hind to grow up and get moving on with life. Others have a bit more mercy and see this group as slightly overwhelmed adults who are freedom fighters, risk-takers, and dreamers. David H. Kim invites all of those who work with, care about, or have an interest in 20somethings to carefully consider the multiple factors playing into this perfect storm of the quarter life. He does a fantastic job of shedding hope on what some people see as a stunted generation.

Why did I choose to review this?

I have a special place in my heart for 20somethings. While I’m on the cusp of the GenX and Millenials generation cutoffs, I do feel like I identify more with the Millenials. While I have a family and a grown-up life, I also get the huge questions of life and the crazy amount of choices that we now have. Who wants to go into a job that sucks the life out of you? Why would someone spend 40-60 hours a week somewhere that they didn’t absolutely love and have a passion for? I think this generation has grown up being the children of adults who dislike their jobs, have had dissolved marriages, and work so that they can someday retire. I get it. I also enjoy working with college students, so I thought this little book might be helpful to read!

In the Re-frame, Phyllis Tickle shares her experience as a 20something (which was 60 years ago!) and identifies the present day quarter life crisis as a result of a lack of center in these young adults. Once upon a time, she says, people grew up in a  location and stayed there. They knew who they were, where they were going to live, what they were going to do, and who was going to be a part of their community. Today is almost never the case.

For Christians, their “center” is found at church, but that’s not as easy as it once was. “At church” no longer means what it once did. For Phyllis, one spiritual practice that has helped her to stay centered is practicing the prayers of the daily office- praying throughout the day at certain times, praying prayers of our spiritual mothers and fathers, and knowing that Christians in every timezone are praying those too. Of course, she knows this is not for everyone, but she challenges 20somethings to find something, some kind of spiritual discipline, if you will, that helps them to stay focused on the long journey with Christ, even if the location and community changes around them.

My takeaway:

Millenials are an incredibly difficult group to pin down. It’s hard to look at statistics and make sense out of them. In the book I found a few statistics that were a bit contradictory– I don’t think this was because the research was done wrong or reported incorrectly. I think it’s because this group of people is generally a bit paradoxical. The best bet in understanding this generation is not to focus so much on the statistics, but to get to know them. Invite them to dinner. Attend an event with them. Mentor them. Ask them questions.

Questions I’m now asking:

1. What practices can I engage in to “find my center” as Phyllis Tickle mentions in her re-frame section of the book?

2. How can I help others engage in practices that will find their center?

Where you can go to find more: 

You can learn more about Barna Frames, and also about the two authors, David H. Kim and Phyllis Tickle.

Thanks to Booklook Bloggers for providing this mini book in exchange for an honest review. 

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