I’ve just started in on Sacred Unions, Sacred Passions by Dan Brennan. And I think it’s going to shift a paradigm of mine about intimate friendships. Brennan is an evangelical Christian who believes that men and women can, and should, be intimate friends. He and his wife have been married for 28 years, and both have dear, close, intimate friends of the opposite sex. They spend time with those friends in the company of one another and alone. I know, I know- their pastors have warned them that they are playing with fire.
BUT, I mean, what if they’re on to something? I am and/or have been VERY close with a few male friends (several that read this blog) and have found true intimacy with them without feeling like I wanted to make out with them. So, in some ways, I really get what this author is saying. I love having the ability to go out with one of my male friends to eat dinner or go do an errand or pray about something significant– and not having to worry about Jake getting mad or jealous or the other person’s spouse feeling the same way.
But, I digress. I’m only one chapter into this but already have lots of questions, hesitations and excitement about the possibilites that the author is presenting.
How do you feel about cross-sex intimate friendships?
For more about the book, check out this video: